The good girl bad girl balance

I guess the sexy churchy girl balance is very important when it comes to marriages and/or relationships. Most men, I guess, want a good balance between holy and sexy; they want their woman’s ‘bad girl’ game to be just as good as her holiness game. Obviously, a woman’s sex appeal must be top notch to continually attract her man. Men want the good girl and the bad chick, all in one package.

Somehow, a woman must be a bit of a ‘bad girl’ and a ‘church girl’ to be perfectly right for a man. Women who switch both roles perfectly well are great at keeping their men and their home. Women who downplay physical attraction often lose out because the rare truth is that, it is mostly hard for a man to feel a sexual or romantic connection with a woman he is not physically attracted to. That is why a woman must invest in always looking attractive and appealing to her man; she must invest in everything that makes a woman look and be sexy.

A man would crave a bit of the ‘bad girl’ when all a woman offers is too much of the ‘good girl’ character. When it’s all too religious, it gets boring. Obviously, that must be the real reasons why I lot of christian sex books had to be written to at least teach church girls how to be sexy, act horny, play a little ‘dirty’, spice things up and have great sex? Godliness is of course a great gain, but a woman must not only learn how to be a prayer warrior.

Similarly, the ‘good girl’ will be most desired when all a man gets is the ‘bad girl’ stuff. Too much of everything is obviously bad, right? That good balance of a good girl bad girl trait is absolutely a winner with men.

The reverse is also true, just so we don’t put it all on the women. Women also want a good balance of the playboy and church boy traits in their men.

Obviously it’s all about times and seasons, knowing when to be churchy and when not to be, right? 😊

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Β©Mark Gadogbe, 2020

18 thoughts on “The good girl bad girl balance

  1. I’m glad to be reading this. I’ve had this conversation with different Christians a number of times and this what they don’t want to hear.

    On Thu, 4 Jun 2020 at 06:54, Everything Marriage wrote:

    > McApple posted: ” I guess the sexy churchy girl balance is very important > when it comes to marriages and/or relationships. Most men, I guess, want a > good balance between holy and sexy; they want their woman’s ‘bad girl’ game > to be just as good as her holiness game. Obviou” >

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    1. Hi dear, I’m glad you found it an interesting read. I guess those other Christians may a reason for their stance but I’m glad you are having such conversations. The more we discuss issues, the more we learn and increase our knowledge base in making wise decisions. I do not like taking entrenched position on things or being an extremist because everybody experiences life differently. I however do believe we must live a balanced life, even as Christians.
      God bless and help us all πŸ™πŸΎ.

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  2. I was about to ask about the men when I saw the concluding part of the post. Yes, both husband and wife must have the ‘good and bad’ traits. 😊

    I had wanted to comment on your earlier post concerning when to introduce a potential partner to your family but the comment button was not available. Is it possible to activate that?

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    1. Aww. Thanks for bringing that to my attention. I didn’t realize that and it’s quite strange but will look into it.

      I sincerely appreciate you taking the time to read my posts. God bless! πŸ™

      And yes…I almost left out the men. Truly, life is better with good balance. πŸ™ˆ
      Thanks a lot.

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    1. Hahaha. That’s very true!
      I saw a quote recently that said “the only difference between good girls and bad girls is that good girls are very selective with who they are bad with”.
      That must surely explain your point. But I hope the churchy girl’s husband has the qualities to actually bring out the bad girl side of her πŸ˜ŠπŸ™ˆ

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  3. I find that what most men want doesn’t exist. They want a fantasy, not a real woman and society has never forced men to accept or review reality but instead has made the woman to believe she must comply with these unrealistic expectations. If it’s true love, according to how Christ loves the Church and according to Corinthian 13 it doesn’t take all that to keep his attention. His love for you keeps him interested. Only love with keep him.

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    1. That’s a beautiful angle! It’s all wrapped up in love. Anything done outside of love is not even worth doing. God help us satisfy our spouses the way they would love to be loved so we can experience true happiness in our homes.
      Really appreciate the feedback. God bless you πŸ™πŸΎ

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      1. Exactly my point. Anything done outside of love is not even worth doing. πŸ™‚ Of course this doesn’t mean a couple won’t have disagreements and are always going to see everything from the same angle because they won’t but they find ways to compromise.,

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