Addictions

Everybody is addicted to something, said a wise man.

If you don’t know your addiction or haven’t yet discovered it, you might think you’re the best of human beings, perhaps a super being, and just go about castigating everybody else.

Look deep within, you will find your addiction, no matter how subtle. You will find that which you can’t do without. You will find that which has a constant pull on you. You will find that one thing you like so much although it does affect you negatively too. You will find that one thing you are struggling to do away with. 😊

Perhaps you are addicted to being perfect? πŸ€ͺ

On a more serious note, bad addictions need to be worked on, especially when you acknowledge it puts your life in danger. Take the needed baby steps and before long, you will be walking, trotting and running your way out of that bad addiction.

I don’t know what your addiction is, but I bet you have one. 😊

Happy New Year! Be the best version of yourself this new year!

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Β©Mark Gadogbe, 2022

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Too much “spiritual self-confidence”

Ye whose love is fervent, whose faith is constant, whose hopes are bright, say not, “We shall never sin,” but rather cry, “Lead us not into temptation.”

Who would have dreamt that righteous Lot could be found drunken, and committing uncleanness?

It is not for nothing that Scripture says in 1 Corinthians 10:12 that “Wherefore let him that thinketh he standeth take heed lest he fall.”

May infinite wisdom cure us of the madness of self-confidence that makes us so quick to judge others!!!

Β©Mark Gadogbe, 2020

The Sex Wavelength

Naturally, men want sex, lots of it. Women do too, loads of it.

That’s sometimes just in principle, or theoretically speaking. Reality however is that, your want of sex and actually getting to have it as much as you want in life (and in marriage obviously), is not even totally dependent on you. It takes two to tango, and even things as simple as sex are sometimes complicated within the bounds of holy matrimony.

To put it simply, consider yourselves blessed if you and your partner have the same understanding of your sexual needs and are often on the same sexual wavelength. Often, you will discover in many relationships/marriages that one partner wants sex more, while the other wants it less. Reaching a middle ground is also sometimes a very slippery road. Don’t be surprised when you discover that, in many marriages, there are more “fights” or disagreements over sex than anything else. It’s a major make or break point in many marriages.

Many have conquered the battle or won the “war over sex”, many others too have sadly lost. There are winners and losers in the game of sex, and you might not know what you’ll get until you’re served.

I guess we can just leave it at that and wish everybody well in their sexual endeavors. It’s our prayer though, that every marriage comes out “sexually successful”. πŸ™πŸΎπŸ˜ŠπŸ˜Ž

Β©Mark Gadogbe, 2021

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Dear Women, It’s International Men’s Day! Hello?

International Men’s Day is celebrated on 19th November every year to celebrate men and address some important male issues. Unfortunately, it appears the day doesn’t receive as much buzz as its opposite, International Women’s Day, which is celebrated on March 8 every year.

I know it’s somehow sad that an important day as International Men’s Day passes every year without some women in our lives even realizing it. The least they could do is to use the day to recognize our existence as men and the positive roles we play (no matter how little) in their life and society as a whole, but somehow, it often appears there’s a grand scheme amongst some women to pretend not to know what day today is and what every little bit of appreciation means to men.

Maybe it’s not a grand scheme after all. Perhaps it’s just a sad reality that only a few men out there are influencing women’s lives positively enough to warrant a great celebration or recognition by the large army or population of women.

Perhaps, the reality might also just be that it is time for us men to embrace the sad fact that the world is progressively becoming feminine, and our essence in this new world might continue to be downplayed. We might as well awaken to the fact that it’s not just gender equality or balance that is being sought but female domination.

Perhaps, all men are needed for by some women in this “new feminist world” is to be sperm donors. If we are not lucky, that’s the only recognition we may continue to get. We may only find our worth when our “new age women” get tired of their dildos, so let’s fast and pray they do real quick…for our own good. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜œ

In any case, may the good Lord continue to bless and lift up all women who continue to recognize, appreciate and celebrate the men in their life. Thank you for being our support system and life blood! πŸ™πŸΎ

Happy International Men’s Day to all men! May we continue to play our divine roles and fulfill God’s purpose in our lives. The world can still not do without us, under God’s divine order. πŸ‘πŸ½πŸ’ͺπŸ½πŸ™πŸΎ

Β©Mark Gadogbe, 2020

When I got to Heaven

I was shocked, confused, bewildered
As I entered Heaven’s door
Not by the beauty of it all
By the lights or its decor.

But it was the folks in Heaven
Who made me sputter and gasp
The thieves, the liars, the sinners
The alcoholics, the trash.

There stood the kid from seventh grade
Who swiped my lunch money twice
Next to him was my old neighbor
Who never said anything nice.

Uncle Bill, who I always thought
Was rotting away in hell
Was sitting pretty on cloud nine
Looking incredibly well.

I nudged Jesus, “What’s the deal?
I would love to hear Your take
How’d all these sinners get up here?
God must have made a mistake.”

“And why is everyone so quiet
So somber? Please give me a clue.”
“Hush, child,” said He. “They’re all in shock
No one thought they’d see you!”

Never judge another person – leave that up to God!

A gender-balanced post?

So, here I am thinking about the best form of asking a question without offending anyone. πŸ˜‚πŸ™ˆ

Back in the days, one could easily get away with the question “Why get pregnant for a man you wouldn’t want to marry?

But lately, a question like that could land one into trouble, irrespective of whether you wanted to direct the question to a particular gender, that is the female gender.

Most feminists would prefer or insist on the question rather asked as: “Why impregnate a woman who wouldn’t want to marry you or you wouldn’t want to marry?

It’s probably the same question, or the import of the message might be same, but depending on the particular gender the message is directed to, it admittedly creates a totally different feel.

Sometimes our writer’s block does not stem from not having an idea or issue to write about. Sometimes it’s just the growing struggle to put on a gender-balanced lens so no gender gets pissed just because you said or wrote something directed at only one gender. Reality is that, many times, a topic or issue so simple to communicate becomes more difficult to put out just because of the need to use he/she or him/her. πŸ˜„πŸ™ˆ

Β©Mark Gadogbe, 2021

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A Eulogy for Breasts on ‘No Bra Day’

The breast in it’s full, firm and unclad glory holds a powerful attraction for men. Babies and grown men alike derive pleasure from those beautiful twin towers that adorn the chest of a woman.

A captivating seductive tool they truly are…how many mighty men have fallen at the sight or allure of breasts! Such beautiful divine work of art. Many a penis would admit ever rising or ‘beaming with life’ at a showy sight of a beautiful breast. Perhaps, it is partly that innate weakness in man that has driven the push for women to be well clad as part of the decency agenda. 😊

Breasts are undoubtedly a powerful addition to a woman’s self-confidence, beauty and feminine sexiness. Many women who feel inadequate and for many other reasons have gone great lengths to enhance their breasts through implants to keep them in the shape, form, size, looks and firmness they desire or feel will give them added self-worth.

As men, we appreciate breasts in all its glory and varieties and will always be sad that our go to source of happiness and pleasure, and that which has given life to many would also be sucking the life out of many life givers. Yes, women are life givers and we surely should sympathize with all women battling various degrees of breast cancer. No man will wish a woman go through that fight.

So, for all women out there fighting breast cancer, we pray for God’s divine healing and intervention for you. For all others, we urge you to take great care of your breasts and regularly undergo breast examination as it helps with early detection and prevention of breast cancer.

On a lighter note, any man would jump at the opportunity to examine his woman’s breasts – do let us. Anything to do with breasts, you can bet men will always be available and ready to roll. It is a divine call and not for nothing that the Bible even recommends in Isaiah 66:11 – “That you may nurse and be satisfied with her comforting breasts; That you may suck and be delighted with her bountiful bosom.” 😊

Don’t worry, we only advocate all that scriptural ‘nursing’ and ‘sucking’ within the bounds of marriage. πŸ™ˆ

Surely, the Bible’s descriptions of breasts alone should tell you their worth to man. We can’t deny loving breasts any less than women themselves love their godly asset.

#Pinkoctober #BreastCancerAwareness #SaveTheBreast

Β©Mark Gadogbe, 2021

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Why are men so attracted to or desirous of beautiful women?

Men understand fully that women are very beautiful works of art…very well crafted with everything in the right place. It’s like God did a rushed work with men but took His time to mold the women.

Now, which man, dead or alive, will hate staring at and soaking in a beautiful masterpiece of art? Show me who?

The beauty, sexuality and sensuality of the female is simply a powerful attraction to a man. That is how God made it; I do not think it is Satan who has placed that thing in man that attracts him to beautiful, gorgeous women.

That is not to say it is totally justified to go beyond admiring to lusting…though there’s always that thin line in between. It’s not an easy battle though, all men can admit that – we’re not saints. Hello? πŸ˜ƒπŸ™ˆ

One man puts his battle with strong likeness for or attraction to women this way: “It is simply punishment that God Himself will place us in the midst of all these beautiful women tempting our eyes constantly with all manner of “admirable assets” and say we should not look or desire them. He should have just made us blind and then there will be no problem with lust“. πŸ˜‚

One would wonder if women lust after or are desirous of men too, or it’s just a man’s battle? Perhaps women don’t openly admit stuff like that?

Β©Mark Gadogbe, 2021

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Life: It’s okay to feel lost sometimes

Ever been at that point in life when you feel you’re just existing and nothing is really happening for you? Yeah, life does come in phases, and some phases will surely suck.

The journey life takes us on can sometimes be strange, and other times fascinating. Can’t imagine how many times we feel lost and disappointed life doesn’t take us on the exact journey we carefully planned for ourselves and worked hard for.

But somehow it eventually ends well, we hope. Maybe the harvest is nigh and we need not give up!

“It’s okay if you’re lost, we’re all a little lost and it’s alright” ~Nightbirde

Β©Mark Gadogbe, 2021

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