Kneel down before I accept your marriage proposal

The convention in the Western world, and as depicted in many movies, is for a man to kneel down when proposing to his lady, especially if done in public. But, what happens when a guy doesn’t kneel down when proposing?

Well, below is a short excerpt from a marriage proposal video (involving two African lovers in Africa) that made rounds recently on social media, and that has divided opinions among our African brothers and sisters.

A lady refused a guy’s public proposal because he refused to kneel down while proposing. The lady says that’s embarrassing and cannot fathom why he wouldn’t kneel down for her. The guy says kneeling down is not what proves he loves her, and in any case, during church weddings, Pastors don’t ask the groom to kneel down before his bride when exchanging vows (putting on the ring).

This is the matter they have been trying to settle since 😊🙈. Your opinion may help our dear African brother and sister who apparently were madly in love, until the proposal 😊🤷🏽‍♂.

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An excerpt on what men and women want

“She creates a home that offers him a refuge from the stresses of life. She manages the household responsibilities in a way that encourages him to spend time at home enjoying his family. She understands and appreciates him more than anyone else. She reminds him of his values and achievements and helps him maintain self confidence. She avoids criticizing him. She is proud of him, not out of duty, but from a profound respect for the man she chose to marry”.

“He creates an environment of affection that clearly and repeatedly expresses his love for her. He never leaves her with a false impression and is truthful about his thoughts, feelings, intentions and behaviour. He does not work long hours, keeping himself from his wife and family, but is able to provide necessary support by working a 40-45 hour week. While he encourages his wife to pursue a career, he does not depend on her salary for family living expenses”.

PS: I can’t remember from which book I read the above to properly reference the author, but I found it interesting chancing upon it again in my ‘journal of quotes’.

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Pray

​I came to believe in prayer…

Not because a pastor told me…

But because I grew up seeing my mama many times on her knees…

And I remember the many times when her bed was my hospital…

I needed no other evidence…just to know there is power in prayer!!

Thank You Mama!!

I thought of you today…you are dearly missed. 

Don’t wait until marriage…

​A man doesn’t have to wait until he marries before taking on the role of spiritual headship of his love relationship. 

It is easier to lead the woman you plan on marrying in the right spiritual direction and get her to respect your spiritual headship when she sees that in you or see you exercising that role way before the marriage covenant is even entered into. And it may be more easier to sustain it way into marriage when you’ve cultivated it early in the relationship.

Yes, be romantic towards her; but be all the more spiritual towards her. 

Women need leading; if you fail to lead her, she will lead you. Just don’t resent it when she eventually takes over your roles and you begin to feel (spiritually) irrelevant. 

Many men are in serious love relationships but don’t command prayer times together for the relationship, they don’t command fastings, they don’t command Bible study and devotions; they don’t even pray themselves for the relationship! Yet, they want the best out of the relationship, they want everything to just go smoothly, they want spiritual and character compatibility or synchronization? 

Well…maybe things do fall in place effortlessly for some people.
©Mark Gadogbe (McApple)

Marriage & Personal Development Author 

I speak LIFE…

​Today I feel led to speak LIFE over you:

I command every dead thing in your life to come back to life!

May your business, finances, marriage, relationship, education, etc witness a glorious facelift!

I declare that your joy is returning and out of your belly shall flow springs of living waters!

I see God writing your story anew and I see the windows of heaven open over you!

You shall not die before your time but you shall live to be celebrated!

I silence every voice of accusation against you!

You are delivered from the grave!

The hand of the devil is lifted off your business, marriage, family, children, etc!

Today onwards your destiny is secured and God’s pillar of fire is separating your camp and that of your enemies…!

No evil shall befall you and no plague shall come near your dwelling!

You are blessed, an oak of righteousness, a planting of the Lord!

Many shall come to enjoy your fruits, to drink of your waters….!

You are victorious in life and nothing can change that!

For He that has promised is faithful and He shall perform it!!!

Amen and Amen!!
It’s a prayer to be claimed…so if you believe it, shout a big AMEN to receive it.

Mark Gadogbe (McApple)

God help His Church…

We have said it a billion times!
Our churches have lost it!
Both the “sane” and “insane” churches
Our people both literate and illiterate have lost it too!
In the name of spirituality…we have all lost it!
We have argued many times
How far church discipline should go
We have argued a billion times
Where the Churches assumed role of “parenting” ends
We have raised it a million times
How church “membership” ought to be defined
And where the church’s “authority” over its “members” ends
We have voiced out a thousand times
How non-ethical our church leaders are operating
How manipulative and cunning they have become
How the main purpose of the Church has shifted
How “secular” our churches have become
How we can no longer differentiate
Church from a Business or Secular Organization, etc
But for fear of being labelled “carnal”
And put in some particular stereotypes
And for how wrongly we have been brainwashed
In interpreting the “touch not my anointed…” scriptures
The “it is God speaking through me” gimmicks
That makes us take every message/direction from the pulpit
Hook, line and sinker!
We ourselves have become unwise and “stupid” followers
How brainwashed we have become
How undiscerning we have become
How dead in our spirits we have become
Because we do not know the Bible for ourselves
Because we fail to realize
Our lives are not sold out to churches to do as they please
Our lives are to be led by Christ and not the Church
Church leading you and Christ leading you…
There’s a whole lot of difference!
The day you know…you will be liberated!

Mark Gadogbe (McApple)

(PS: Sentiments entirely mine! Don’t steal it! And don’t hate when you don’t share same sentiments! Leave me to Christ…lol 😂😜)

Heartbreaks…

Should you despair over a relationship gone bad…take a minute and think about the person who has never known what it’s like to love and be loved in return.

 

Love…

Love unexercised is but a sweet perfume in a closed vessel.
May we know by sweet experience what this means.

Love should not be hidden. Keep showing love and yield the fruits thereof.

A LETTER TO MY UNBORN SON

Dear Son,
I know by the time you will be reading this letter on your hologram phone you will be laughing at Facebook and wondering why your grandfather’s son chose this slow medium .
For your information this is amongst the fastest messaging technologies of my time. The hologram phone is still at the conceptual stage .

I believe however that by the time you will be here it would become a reality. After all, I remember growing up when there were no emails, internet, Facebook, et al. We used to buy airmails and write to “pen pals” abroad. We waited for weeks to get our responses or in some cases RETURNED LETTERS due to one or two spelling mistakes in the addresses .
We had a full session dedicated at our morning assemblies in school to the sharing of mails received.

The heroes were those who received fat mails regularly.

The content of these mails were usually Bibles, magazines, tracts and audio cassettes. Hmmm, many youth today do not even know how an audio cassette looks like let alone how to use it. I still have a few and I would keep them for you to have a look.

I remember how we zealously and jealously guard our address books to prevent others from copying from them. In some cases we mischievously alter the numbers in the addresses so that those who secretly copy them would receive RETURNED LETTERS.

Son, those were very interesting times but I know you would find it boring. Anyway, my main reason for writing this letter to you is not to talk about my childhood days. I would dedicate another letter to that later.

I want you to be careful about the kind of women you let into your life. Do not be distracted by physical beauty. I am certain cosmetic surgery would have reached insane levels at your time cos even now men are able to undergo sex change surgery to become women. One of the essential questions you would have to ask a ‘woman’ you like in your era should be: “Were you born a woman?’

After you have established the baseline that she is really a she, please look beyond her looks.Get a good woman just like your mom. If I want to describe her now this letter would be too long so I would do so in another letter. Having a pretty looking woman is good, after all, your mom is pretty but it should not be the basis of your choice.

Fred Amese

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She’s too young for you…

Maybe she’s too young for you…if she can’t make any critical decisions like:

• Whether she will marry you now or tomorrow
• Whether she wants to have two kids or one
• Whether she wants to be a career woman or just a housewife
• Whether she wants to live in the village or town
• Whether she will use part of her money to support the home or not
• Whether she is old enough to make her decisions or stick to her parents’
• Whether she must choose the man she wants to marry or her parents must
• Whether to love you all the way or not

The list is so long…but the choice remains yours.

She can’t make the simplest of decisions?? Then maybe…

With marriage comes a lot of very critical decisions to make. Decisions in marriage, no matter how small, are no child’s play. It’s no place for “too young” folks. Being “too young for you” is not necessarily about age…but the mental ability to decide what one wants out of life and in a marriage.

Indecision is a big killer in marriage. Marriages are planned and that means loads of decision making. It’s not an “anything goes” affair.

So whether he or she is too young for you is a question you can’t avoid to ponder. Lol.

Mark Gadogbe (McApple)

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