Break yourself free from people’s judgement 

This new year, do yourself a big favour and decide to break yourself free from negative energies…one of those is people’s judgement.

It’s never strange to find people (“know it alls”) ​expressing uninvited opinions and passing judgements about your married life and how you should conduct yourself. Forget marriage, it happens in almost every aspect of our daily lives…people telling you what to do and not to do; passing uninvited comments or opinions at any given opportunity. You must be an angel to not have experienced it. 😂

Nonetheless, what I need you to know is that, the weight of other people’s opinions and judgement is a very heavy load. You need to break yourself and your marriage free from it…until freedom comes, you will not know how much weight and burden you carried. That freedom comes in not paying attention to it, turning a deaf ear or what I usually say “multiply them by zero” 😂

There’s just this one simple truth in life: whatever you do, people will judge as right or wrong. And before you finish seeking people’s validation, you will die from mental exhaustion. 

So, just be yourself and do you! You’re the only best judge of your choices and actions. BE YOU…not them. We’re all on separate journeys and separate assignments or life purpose. 

©Mark Gadogbe (McApple), 2017

Seasons… 

Embrace every season you’re in and celebrate it.  It may not last long or forever…nothing in life does. 

There’s a blessing in every season of life. Celebrate your single season and enjoy the blessings. Soon that season will be over and what you learned at that stage may take you far. 

Soon will come marriage. Celebrate your married season too…it may also not last forever. Ideally it should, but life does not always give you what you want. There’s a limit to your efforts; the rest becomes the work of divine providence. 

Whiles you have life…learn to celebrate yourself through every season, through every phase of life! 

©Mark Gadogbe (McApple), 2017

I’ll Alter Him: Story of A Bride

A story is told of a young bride-to-be who was very nervous on the day before her wedding, so she spoke with her minister. “I’m afraid I might not make it through the ceremony properly,” she confessed.

The minister assured her that everything would be fine: “When you enter the church tomorrow and the processional begins, you will be walking down the same aisle you’ve walked many times before. Concentrate on that aisle. When you get halfway down the aisle, you’ll see the altar, where you and your family have worshiped for many years. Concentrate on that altar. Then, when you’re almost to the altar, you will see your groom, the one you love. Concentrate on him.”

The bride was relieved, and left to prepare for her big moment. The next day, she walked down the aisle with her chin up and eyes bright—a beautiful, confident bride. But those along the center were a bit surprised to hear her muttering over and over. 

What she muttered was “Aisle, altar, him. Aisle, altar, him.”

But they heard: “I’LL ALTER HIM!
MORAL OF STORY: People around you will always misunderstand or misrepresent you. You’re the best judge of thy own truth. 

Be.You.Tiful

There’s a part of being beautiful that means “BE YOU” and don’t take on other people’s image; emulate, but don’t imitate. 

Make “BE YOU” the greater part of your personality and the other “tifuls” will fall in place. 

Being beautiful is not only about your makeup and outward appearance as the media and fashion world often projects. That aspect is very important but there’s a more important aspect which is the totality of your personality

How would people define you? The woman with the prettiest face and makeup but ugliest character? The woman that’s most sort after for the cover of every fashion magazine because of your fame in exposing your nakedness or the one that elicits the most sexual fantasy in men and gets them masturbating to or having sex with your images in mind? That’s your beautiful? That’s an interesting beautiful. 

You can only be unique when you are you; not somebody else, not trying to copy or be like someone else. You are not beautiful when you are easily swayed by people’s opinions of you. The worse part is when you lose your self identity by trying hard to live out people’s opinions of you. 

A part of staying beautiful and relevant is when people remember you for who you are, what you stand for, the unique aura you carry. That’s the biggest impression you leave with people, for good or for bad. 

When people cannot easily tell what sort of person you are, or what sort of impression you leave with them, then you are simply not being relevant because they don’t know where to put you; because you are not being you…you are not being BE.YOU.Tiful 😊

©Mark Gadogbe (McApple), 2017

(PS: Title of post inspired by a June 5 post on justifiedecstasy blog). 

Every girl lives for her wedding day

​”Every girl lives for her wedding day”???

Well, embrace your wedding day…prepare for it, celebrate it.

But after that few hours of fame, the spotlight on you will be gone forever…and the real work starts.

What’s scary?

Truth: “the first year of marriage is hard…really hard“.

And it’s even more when you don’t work at marrying somebody with similar goals, dreams and passions but rather in pursuit of the “soul mate” fantasy.

If only we (especially ladies) will think and prepare more for the marriage as we do for the wedding… like how we make sure, and spend sleepless nights planning for nothing to go wrong, a lot will change in marriages.

Why women especially? Because they are powerful stakeholders of the home. A lot depends on them; even though running the home is an equal partnership. 

~Credit: Frank Powell

 (Edited and expanded)
©Mark Gadogbe (McApple), 2017

Caring for others…

The people we take care of in life in whatever way (our children, spouses, siblings, parents, etc) are not to be seen as burdens…

It is a privilege that God uses us to take care of them…

Cos with or without us, He’ll still take care of them anyways.

He’s GOD…and nobody can best Him in taking care of His children…

So the next time you are blessed with the responsibility of taking care of someone,

Do not think you are doing him/her a favour (maybe u are)…

But more importantly, you are doing God a favour!!

And He’ll surely pay you back…HE NEVER OWES ANYBODY!!!

Well, that much I know….

Happy New Year! Don’t trade your relationship…

​While love is universal, every relationship is unique…

This new year, don’t trade your relationship for someone else’s…

Yours is just as unique as theirs.

Start the year aright! 

Love alone will not build marriage

Not everyone you love is who you will eventually marry.

Should a bird and a fish fall head over heels in love, where are they going to build their home?

One of the most important determinants is whether or not you two can build a successful marriage/home together. And to do that will take more than love, don’t you think? Enough due diligence will be required; love alone will not be enough. Right?