Ever been at that point in life when you feel you’re just existing and nothing is really happening for you? Yeah, life does come in phases, and some phases will surely suck.
The journey life takes us on can sometimes be strange, and other times fascinating. Can’t imagine how many times we feel lost and disappointed life doesn’t take us on the exact journey we carefully planned for ourselves and worked hard for.
But somehow it eventually ends well, we hope. Maybe the harvest is nigh and we need not give up!
“It’s okay if you’re lost, we’re all a little lost and it’s alright” ~Nightbirde
God always brings the right person; but it’s your job to know and to take the chance. He obviously won’t just drop a perfect partner on your lap just because you’re the most faithful or committed Christian, so you can just take him/her and go. Or would He?
There’s something called searching and deciding (taking a step of faith) when it comes to landing a life partner. This is a personal commitment or personal effort. If you like, do nothing, just pray all you want and continue shying away from all the good guys and ladies (with all those flimsy excuses and wish lists) and see how that works out?
Well, the longer you wait for God to do some magic for you, the more the years come flying by. Well, miracles do happen, but, if you want it, you got to go out there, strategically position yourself and be discoverable. Of course, trust the hand of God in the process but also take personal responsibility and step out in faith.
The convention in the Western world, and as depicted in many movies, is for a man to kneel down when proposing to his lady, especially if done in public. But, what happens when a guy doesn’t kneel down when proposing?
Well, below is a short excerpt from a marriage proposal video (involving two African lovers in Africa) that made rounds recently on social media, and that has divided opinions among our African brothers and sisters.
A lady refused a guy’s public proposal because he refused to kneel down while proposing. The lady says that’s embarrassing and cannot fathom why he wouldn’t kneel down for her. The guy says kneeling down is not what proves he loves her, and in any case, during church weddings, Pastors don’t ask the groom to kneel down before his bride when exchanging vows (putting on the ring).
This is the matter they have been trying to settle since 😊🙈. Your opinion may help our dear African brother and sister who apparently were madly in love, until the proposal 😊🤷🏽♂.
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“She creates a home that offers him a refuge from the stresses of life. She manages the household responsibilities in a way that encourages him to spend time at home enjoying his family. She understands and appreciates him more than anyone else. She reminds him of his values and achievements and helps him maintain self confidence. She avoids criticizing him. She is proud of him, not out of duty, but from a profound respect for the man she chose to marry”.
“He creates an environment of affection that clearly and repeatedly expresses his love for her. He never leaves her with a false impression and is truthful about his thoughts, feelings, intentions and behaviour. He does not work long hours, keeping himself from his wife and family, but is able to provide necessary support by working a 40-45 hour week. While he encourages his wife to pursue a career, he does not depend on her salary for family living expenses”.
PS: I can’t remember from which book I read the above to properly reference the author, but I found it interesting chancing upon it again in my ‘journal of quotes’.
I met a sales guy the other day. He was coming from behind me and called out to me. When he got closer he said “Boss, I saw in a revelation that your girl was going to leave you for somebody else, probably me”. Apparently that was his way of striking a conversation. Wierd, right? Lol.
But I think my response struck him when I said “Wow, that’s cool bro. No problem at all”. He was like “I thought you would have a problem with that and will you just let her go easy like that? Won’t you fight for her to prove you love her?”
I laughed and told him to forget that Hollywood stuff and that she can go all the way to Hell if she wants to.
He asked why and I said to him “Whoever does not value you enough to leave your life for another, you must let go and close the door. Life is simple and you will always find better”.
He nodded in agreement with a broad smile on his face and we got into other important sales matters.
(But why I’m I sharing this? Lol)
Let’s just say, it’s a fun post to usher in yet another new month of being alive…amidst all the COVID-19 ‘tribulations’. Dear July, be good to us and keep us safe! 🙏🏾