Many times when people begin to isolate from the crowd (friends, family, social activities, etc) and keep to themselves, chances are that all is not well with them. They may be fighting battles way bigger than themselves.
Loneliness and seclusion is never a healthy sign, it’s never fun. Check on people. They may not be willing to talk about their issues, but it may mean a lot to them that someone did check up on them.
Emotional attachment is important for building healthy and committed love relationships but can also be a very costly thing.
You build your life around one person (your partner) for years and suddenly they decide to leave or move away…to pursue new dreams, goals, aspirations and better their life – and hopefully, both of your lives. A difficult choice is made that leaves little room for making changes or compromises that includes you. You understand, but then you also realize that dreams of a better future have taken first place over you. You have to relearn to build life alone and apart, while realizing distance has a way of shattering bonds – both physical and emotional.
You realize that if you fall in love with a bird, you have to let it fly…you must not take away its wings. You must not cage a bird for its happiness depends on flying. If you’re married to a fish, you must let it swim.
You also realize that, much as you may desire it, life cannot always be lived together with a significant other. There are times you will be together, there are times you will be apart. Just that if you are high on emotional attachment, no matter how brief or long the parting away is, no matter the good reasons and future rewards, and no matter how often you try to stay in touch, something leaves you, a big part of you dies within, your emotional attachment bubble bursts…you feel a vacuum left. Everything changes…until you’re back to building life together again. If nothing changes, then you’re not that emotionally attached.
Ever been at that point in life when you feel you’re just existing and nothing is really happening for you? Yeah, life does come in phases, and some phases will surely suck.
The journey life takes us on can sometimes be strange, and other times fascinating. Can’t imagine how many times we feel lost and disappointed life doesn’t take us on the exact journey we carefully planned for ourselves and worked hard for.
But somehow it eventually ends well, we hope. Maybe the harvest is nigh and we need not give up!
“It’s okay if you’re lost, we’re all a little lost and it’s alright” ~Nightbirde
Falling in love is easy and it’s just the beginning; keeping that love alive is the real work.
Love must be cultivated and kept alive all through the journey together. Many begin well, having injected so much energy at the initial phases or years, and then get too comfortable as the years go by and begin to lose the fire. Things soon begin to get too mundane, no new ideas, no creativity, no excitement, and the once full love tank begins to empty out.
Everything soon falls apart because the love could not be sustained.
One of the fundamental reasons for cheating in relationships is the fact that we always crave what we miss in our life and partners, and we become vulnerable when we find it in another person. It is in that moment of lack that our cravings and the temptations associated with them grows. Talk of craving friendship, affection, true love, sex, empathy, quality time, real communication, etc.
Lately, we find that the church likes people who sings the praise of the “man of God” more than people who strive to know the word of God for themselves and are not tickled much by the Pastor’s personality.
God always brings the right person; but it’s your job to know and to take the chance. He obviously won’t just drop a perfect partner on your lap just because you’re the most faithful or committed Christian, so you can just take him/her and go. Or would He?
There’s something called searching and deciding (taking a step of faith) when it comes to landing a life partner. This is a personal commitment or personal effort. If you like, do nothing, just pray all you want and continue shying away from all the good guys and ladies (with all those flimsy excuses and wish lists) and see how that works out?
Well, the longer you wait for God to do some magic for you, the more the years come flying by. Well, miracles do happen, but, if you want it, you got to go out there, strategically position yourself and be discoverable. Of course, trust the hand of God in the process but also take personal responsibility and step out in faith.