Which stage of love have you reached?
I’ll tell you mine. We’re passed the young love stage and almost now enjoying realistic love…and we gonna stay there for a long time! How cool? 😂🙈
I discovered recently that marital love passes through five stages:
– young love: years 1–2
– realistic love: years 3–10
– settled love: years 11–25
– renewed love: years 26–35
– inconceivable love: years 36+
But what’s important is that you make a decision to enjoy every stage of your marriage. Decide to cherish every moment. Let the beauty of your spouse always be the standard for beauty. Together, break out of the everyday routine again and again.
Believe in and be amazed at the miracle of love, your marriage! It is the biggest adventure on earth!
“A good marriage is one which allows for change and growth in the individuals and in the way they express their love”
— Pearl S. Buck
Change is bound to happen in our lives and our marriages and relationships. We are not static beings; neither is our marriage. Change can be positive or negative. Static marriages don’t grow…many times they get boring. Embrace change in your marriage/relationship and develop a good mental attitude about it. It sure is not comfortable most times especially when it pushes you or your marriage/relationship out of your comfort zone but you sure will find some fun in there, some adventure, some new experience. After all, a life that stays the same is never exciting, I guess. It’s either you complain and sulk or look for something to encourage yourself.
Socrates it is that said:
“The secret of change is to focus all your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new”
Change is inevitable and must be managed…whether temporal or permanent. Spouses react to and deal with change differently. Good marriages manage change better. How you deal with change will determine the outcome of your marriage.
Depending on the type of change, you could be on any portion of the “dealing with change curve” below. Wanna guess how change makes you feel??
God grant grace so we will be well able to handle all the numerous changes our lives, marriages and relationships will experience along the way. And may the changes not break us but build us!
Mark Gadogbe (McApple)
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