The convention in the Western world, and as depicted in many movies, is for a man to kneel down when proposing to his lady, especially if done in public. But, what happens when a guy doesn’t kneel down when proposing?
Well, below is a short excerpt from a marriage proposal video (involving two African lovers in Africa) that made rounds recently on social media, and that has divided opinions among our African brothers and sisters.
A lady refused a guy’s public proposal because he refused to kneel down while proposing. The lady says that’s embarrassing and cannot fathom why he wouldn’t kneel down for her. The guy says kneeling down is not what proves he loves her, and in any case, during church weddings, Pastors don’t ask the groom to kneel down before his bride when exchanging vows (putting on the ring).
This is the matter they have been trying to settle since 😊🙈. Your opinion may help our dear African brother and sister who apparently were madly in love, until the proposal 😊🤷🏽♂.
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They don’t call it the “bridal” industry for nothing, folks. When it comes to weddings, men are usually seen as a handsome prop rather than one half of the important union that is about to take place.
No matter what the bridal industry says about men and their weddings, getting married to “The One” is an important rite of passage that should be treated as such. You may not care about floral arrangements or choosing wedding colors, but it’s important that you take the time to prepare yourself for your wedding day. This doesn’t just mean your wedding day outfit either. Check out this list of tips and helpful tools to help you look your best on your wedding day and beyond!
Your Commitment and Communication
Now I know that you have already completed a big task by asking your partner to be your fiancée, but your duties don’t stop there. Wedding planning is typically seen as the bride’s responsibility, but she needs your help too! You’re making a big life commitment, so continue to commit to helping with the wedding all the way through the process. You probably have no idea what goes into planning a wedding and that’s okay. Do a little research and check out this groom-specific wedding planning guide from The Knot.
The best thing you can do when wedding planning begins is ask your partner what she’d like you to be responsible for. If she doesn’t know right away, that’s okay. Just make sure to keep asking how things are going and if you can help throughout the process. Sometimes just being a listening ear for her to vent is more helpful than you know. You’re in this together, right? Also, if your future bride asks for your opinion, it’s not helpful to say, “I don’t care.” It may seem like you’re doing her a favor by giving her the final say, but not giving your opinion at all isn’t what she’s looking for. Your partner is looking to you, her future life partner, for reassurances and validation, so offer it!
Find a handy list of ways a groom can help plan too. If you have strong opinions about an aspect of your wedding day, speak up in the beginning. Communication is a two-way street and something you and your partner need to continually work on for your whole lives together.
While your wedding is about your love and your commitment to each other, there’s no shame in wanting to look amazing on this day. You don’t have to completely change how you look for your wedding day, but it’s important to look your best for you partner and feel confident.
You want to make sure your hair is feeling and looking healthy. It’s advised not to try a new hairstyle that radically different from what you usually have right before the big day. Instead, work with a trusted hairstylist in the months leading up to your wedding date. You can find a look you love, and work on maintaining it. Is your hair starting to thin? Take steps to keep your scalp and hair healthy by checking for signs of baldness, taking care of your health overall and consider adding a biotin vitamin into your diet, like biotin gummies from hims, a men’s wellness company. Hims has other hair loss products that can help your hair health too. Not only will biotin help your hair grow, it’ll help your nails grow too.
Paying attention to your nails probably just consists of trimming them every now and then, but think of the photos on your wedding day. Your new rings and held hands during your ceremony will be photographed! So don’t overlook this detail. Treat your bride-to-be to a manicure and ask if you can join. It’ll be a fun way to prep together! If you’re not interested in going through the entire manicure process in a salon, consider asking your partner if she’ll help you out. It’ll save you money too!
This is another important aspect to not overlook. If you have skin issues, start to address them months in advance. Skincare doesn’t have to be complicated, so start to develop a simple routine now. A beauty routine isn’t just for the ladies! All you need is some face wash, moisturizer, and a lip balm to keep your face looking smooth. There are cool skincare products from Harry’s that you can subscribe to and have shipped right to your door. Their products are sold in Target too, so you can give your lady another reason to shop there. Additionally, eating well and drinking plenty of water does wonders for your health and your skin.
This shouldn’t be limited to wedding prep, but it’s a good time to mention it anyway. If you’re struggling with your mental health, there’s no better time to address it than the present. See a therapist or speak to your doctor about how you’re feeling. If you’re unable to see a medical professional, seek out your pastor or other trusted friend or family member. Sometimes all you need is someone to talk to and share with. There are apps like Headspace that can help you learn how to meditate too. Taking care of your physical health can have enormous benefits on your mental health too.
Again, this doesn’t have to be limited to wedding prep, but having your wedding date on a calendar is a perfect goal to help motivate you to make changes for the better. If you don’t already have a gym routine, start to establish one now. It can be at home or in a gym with a trainer – whatever you’re comfortable with. If you’re not a gym person or don’t feel comfortable going to one, start simple! You can simply start going for power walks or runs around your neighborhood or download an app like Nike+ Training Club and many more. Buy yourself (and your future bride) a Fitbit and start challenging each other and tracking your steps, calories burned, and sleep.
So there you have it… Now, it’s your turn to share your thoughts with us. We’ll love to hear them. 😊
Any time wedding colors and style comes to mind, I can’t help but to be reminded of my wife’s obsession with the color fuchsia the time we were planning our own wedding. In all my life I have never heard of any such color before…not that I am very good at colors anyways. And I remember the troubles the one handling our wedding decorations went through getting that color…and my wife was unyielding in changing her very favorite yet difficult to find fuchsia. On my part I brought a teal blue suit with me from the UK which I just slid in with a bow tie and suit hankie that looked more violet than fuchsia. I ended up giving her the pet name my “Fuchsia Baby” and she on her part calls me her “Teal Blue Baby”. That was one fun part of our wedding colors and style choice. What’s more fun? Try pronouncing “Teal Blue Baby” 10 times without break and see if you will get it right…that became a game we enjoyed up until now.
Everything about a wedding is important. Choosing your wedding colors and style or outfits is one of the first and important decisions would-be couples make. The bride and grooms’ style is one of the defining features that makes their wedding beautiful in its own right. Of course, you will want to be looking at those wedding pictures and how elegant your outfits (suit and gown) and colors played out for many years to come and still want to look trendy.
For almost every wedding, color plays a major role in defining the décor and ultimate tone of the occasion. There is something really beautiful about the way a wedding comes together and a good choice of wedding colors or style makes your wedding stand out. Everybody is impressed by a beautiful wedding décor or color theme. Your wedding color or style may well be one of the most noticeable attractions of your “once in a lifetime” or “most beautiful” day.
When making that decision, it is important that you look at a number of different styles available in order to arrive at the best possible choice that brings out the best in you. I remember how my wife got so “hooked on” other people’s wedding pictures and videos on the internet trying to look out for one thing or the other that best suits her wedding ideas. Just like my wife, if you’re looking for inspiration for your upcoming wedding, I recommend you check out The Black Tux’s suit and tuxedo rentals selection which hosts a lot of amazing styles and color schemes for just the perfect wedding you dream of. Trust me, when it comes to weddings, using the right service and people specialized in the field goes a long way in making you pull off a wedding with no regrets.
At the most basic level, you may want to also choose colors or styles to match the season. There are some colors and styles that best fits the season in which one is getting married. Oh yes, there are summer colors, fall colors, spring colors and autumn colors. Just like in our normal daily life, there are some colors that one shouldn’t wear on a bright sunny day, etc., same way the experts know some colors and styles are best for or bring out the shine in the season in which one marries. Fall is here and I wanted to share with you some of the top trends for the season that I find very lovely, below. Seeing them makes me feel like getting married again.
It is also important to some people to choose colors based on their meanings and their personality types – what best represents them as a couple. One of the proven ways to know which color best suits one’s personality type is to take a color palette quiz and I would like to recommend one of such cool online quizzes I came across. Here: https://www.brandfolder.com/blog/quiz-whats-your-color-palette-personality/
Others also consider what mood the colors create. OK, so white I’m told is symbolic of purity, innocence and cleanliness. Yellow generally symbolizes wisdom, happiness and intellectual energy. Orange represents joyfulness, enthusiasm and optimism. Red they say is the color of strength, health, and vitality. Red-orange is symbolic of desire, sexual passion, pleasure, and a thirst for action. Pink also is a great symbol of love and beauty. Purple is the color of royalty and can represent magic, mystery, creativity and strength. Blue is symbolic of youth, spirituality, peace and tranquility. Green is the color of harmony and balance, renewal and peace. Olive green is the traditional color of peace. Gold is a symbol of wealth and also representative of good health.
In fact, the list is endless and so are your choices. But at the end of the day, you can never go wrong when you use the experts. Everybody’s got a dream wedding color or style, right? What’s yours?
A story is told of a young bride-to-be who was very nervous on the day before her wedding, so she spoke with her minister. “I’m afraid I might not make it through the ceremony properly,” she confessed.
The minister assured her that everything would be fine: “When you enter the church tomorrow and the processional begins, you will be walking down the same aisle you’ve walked many times before. Concentrate on that aisle. When you get halfway down the aisle, you’ll see the altar, where you and your family have worshiped for many years. Concentrate on that altar. Then, when you’re almost to the altar, you will see your groom, the one you love. Concentrate on him.”
The bride was relieved, and left to prepare for her big moment. The next day, she walked down the aisle with her chin up and eyes bright—a beautiful, confident bride. But those along the center were a bit surprised to hear her muttering over and over.
What she muttered was “Aisle, altar, him. Aisle, altar, him.”
But they heard: “I’LL ALTER HIM!” MORAL OF STORY: People around you will always misunderstand or misrepresent you. You’re the best judge of thy own truth.
I had written this a long time ago but could not publish it because a couple of friends who got married around that time would have said it’s about them. Funny it is, but I have learned one thing in recent times that timing is very important even with publishing of my posts and I still have unpublished posts that are over a year old. So now that at least I know of no close friend whose invite I am honouring soon, I feel at liberty to publish this. Lol.
I thought the day and age where we used to keep people waiting hours at marriage and wedding ceremonies should have been long gone now but sadly it’s still with us. If there was any glamour in it in years past, my dear bride and groom, it’s no longer glamorous. The age we are in now, time is of big essence to throw away waiting for a bride and groom for hours. It adds no value to anybody’s life to have to wait hours for a marriage/wedding ceremony to start. It doesn’t make any bride or groom too any more valuable than they already are. If anything, it rather looks disrespectful of people’s valuable time and for you the bride and groom, it creates a bad image on you especially when you are of the educated or elite class.
Of course we all know sometimes things don’t go as planned and some unexpected stuffs can cause delays but seriously, for hours? Hell no! It’s unacceptable! Of course it’s your day and all your guests have put off important things for your sake just to show their love; but don’t take them for granted! It’s a choice you have to make way before the wedding day.
In this part of our world where marriage is not just between bride and groom but a family affair, it makes it even more important that you accord a little bit of courtesy to important family members most of whom are way older than you that at least you should respect their time. It surely is very annoying when your entire family and important guests gather at the time you yourself has given them and now have to wait for you for hours!
Ok, we in this part of the world are never on time so that’s why if it’s supposed to start at 12pm you let your invite read every 10am? Oh come on! A few minutes late may be pardonable (doesn’t mean it’s encouraged), but not 2 hours late for God’s sake! But that’s what our educated brides and grooms are doing to us.
When I was getting married my wife and I agreed that we are educated and should not embarrass ourselves with excessive lateness. We were glad and even more put on edge when the presiding Pastor also stressed same to us during our last meeting with him a day before the event with the words “you guys are learned so don’t act otherwise and keep everybody waiting”. And he was glad after the ceremony that we did not disappoint him and all the people who had travelled from very far to honour us.
There were circumstances that could have made us late especially my camera man deciding not to show up on time. I remember leaving to the Church without him doing the coverage and sending strict instructions to my wife and the bridal team not to wait for him and that I would be so pissed if we had to go against our “no lateness” resolve because of him. Luckily, he was able to catch up with my wife and the bridal team on their way. So as it were, things didn’t go as planned and he couldn’t cover the dressing and preparations before the wedding as agreed and yet wanted to hold us against our resolve, demanding we wait for him. Annoyingly though he saw nothing wrong with it because according to him it is unusual for weddings to start almost on time and that almost all the weddings he has covered started at least an hour after start time.
It is very unfortunate when at a wedding guests begin to make comments like “If I had known I would have taken my time and not come on time or at least eat before coming” just because by the time your reception starts (going by when programme was supposed to start), your guests would have been dying of hunger just because of that little cocktail or buffet. Of course a start time of 10am for a church wedding does not mean groom must be there exactly 10am because they arrive first (that will be great though) but both groom and bride not arriving so many minutes or hours beyond start time in my opinion is disrespectful of people’s time!
Well, maybe it’s just so ingrained in us that we just can’t help it. Then again I thought we only do that while here at home but no, we do it even when we are living abroad. I almost left a wedding of some friends when I was in the UK had it not being that it started to rain just about the time my patience run out. And the atmosphere in the Church that day and the embarrassing expressions of the Pastor, officiating ministers and the groom who had to wait hours for the bride (yet everybody switching to happy mood the moment bride finally entered as if they were not boiling and complaining moments ago) is one that I can never forget.