Marriage killers

​”We put everything ahead of marriage and then wonder why it fails”

Whatever comes between you and your marriage is a marriage killer…be it positives like the Church, the kids, friends, family, and job; or negatives like addictions, bad habits, adultery, negative mentalities, etc. 

Whatever does not edify your marriage…watch it. Whoever is always willing to bring a charge against your marriage because he/she finds nothing good in your marriage should not be kept as company. Bad company corrupts good habits. 

In the course of a marriage, there is a lot of time to develop and to become divine lovers. That is where your marriage must get to. 

Work at it, pruning off all the negatives one step at a time. It’s possible to become divine lovers! We have the Grace; all we need to do is to put in the works. 

©Mark Gadogbe (McApple), 2017 

Marriage quotes…

Hope you find these relationship/marriage quotes interesting…

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 “Relationships don’t always make sense. Especially from the outside”
― Sarah Dessen

“I have known many happy marriages, but never a compatible one. The whole aim of marriage is to fight through and survive the instant when incompatibility becomes unquestionable. For a man and a woman, as such, are incompatible.”
― G.K. Chesterton

 “Marriage is not a noun; it’s a verb. It isn’t something you get. It’s something you do. It’s the way you love your partner every day.”
—  Barbara De Angelis

A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ come together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.
—Dave Meurer

Many marriages would be better if the husband and the wife clearly understood that they are on the same side.
—Zig Ziglar

Happy marriages begin when we marry the ones we love, and they blossom when we love and hold onto the ones we marry.
—Tom Mullen

One of the great illusions of our time is that love is self-sustaining. It is not. Love must be fed and nurtured, constantly renewed. That demands ingenuity and consideration, but first and foremost, it demands time.
—David Mace

To get divorced because love has died, is like selling your car because it’s run out of gas.
—Diane Sollee (smartmarriages.com)

 “When marrying, ask yourself this question: Do you believe that you will be able to converse well with this person into your old age? Everything else in marriage is transitory.”
— Friedrich Nietzsche

 

© Mark Gadogbe (McApple)

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#MarriageGoals #Johannesburg

“It is important for marriages to create lasting fun memories”

Joburg was fun and worth every penny!

City Tour

Apartheid Museum

The face you make when heading to Carlton Centre, tallest office building in Africa

Gold Reef City

Nelson Mandela’s house

Inside Mandela’s House

Mandela’s Living Room

2010 World Cup Soccer City Stadium (The Calabash)

June 16 Memorial Acre

Memorial Acre

The famous SOWETO

To Desmond Tutu’s House

Orlando Towers, World’s Highest SCAD Freefall

Orlando Towers Bungee Jump

Braai Time…Have me some BBQ

A pose in our lorry tire goalpost…after volley and football session

Ice cream fight

Gold Reef City Anaconda Roller Coaster Ride Entrance

The Anaconda!

The Anaconda in motion

A shot before embarking on the Anaconda Ride @ Gold Reef City Theme Park

The Gold Reef City UFO Ride

The friendly lion…lol

…And then the face you get in the Tower of Terror! “It sure was too late to cry for your mama”!

Gold Reef City Tower of Terror Roller Coaster Ride

Mark Gadogbe (McApple)

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A funny quote?

“Sometimes I wonder if men and women really suit each other. Perhaps they should live next door and just visit now and then.”
― Katharine Hepburn

#Quotes

Seeing growth?

When partners feel their relationship helps them grow, they are motivated to keep it going.

#MarriageTips

“happy ever after”

All those “and they lived happily ever after” fairy tale endings need to be changed to “and they began the very hard work of making their marriages happy”.
—Dr. Linda Miles

#MarriageQuotes

Getting more out of marriage

“The trouble with many married people is that they are trying to get more out of marriage than there is in it”
~~Elbert Hubbard

…but I think you can’t get out what you have not put in. If we want a lot more from our marriages we must put in a lot more. Show love and be loved back. Communicate better and you will get good responses back. It’s like a love tank that must be filled before we can draw from it.

Like I said in my Valentine day post, “Happy marriages and relationships are possible! It’s all in our hands…it’s all in the effort we put into it. You can’t get happiness in marriage unless you put in happiness. You can’t reap love in marriage unless you pour in love. Marriage is empty from start…what you get from it at the end of the day is what you invest in it“.

May we find grace to keep pouring in love and not place too much unrealistic demands on our marriages!

Mark Gadogbe (McApple)

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WILL YOU PROPOSE AGAIN? WILL YOU ACCEPT AGAIN?

Happy Valentine!

It’s the season of love!

Love is a good thing. Celebrate it!

But, just a quick thought…

If you are given the opportunity to propose love/marriage to the person you are with now, will you choose the same person? Or you would rather love/marry another? If he should propose again, will you accept again?

Well, the decision is yours and it will obviously be based on the satisfaction you feel in your present relationship. It’s just two things; either you are in a happy marriage/relationship or you are in an unhappy one.

Happy marriages and relationships are possible! It’s all in our hands…it’s all in the effort we put into it. You can’t get happiness in marriage unless you put in happiness. You can’t reap love in marriage unless you pour in love. Marriage is empty from start…what you get from it at the end of the day is what you invest in it.

You can sit all day and grumble all you want about not having a happy marriage/relationship…it won’t change anything until you start putting in the hard work. I know it’s a two-way street; it takes two to create a happy marriage/relationship. What if the other person is not playing their part? Well, that just makes your hard work harder. But if you would just sit down, study your partner, re-strategize and keep pouring in love, affection and respect in an all new way that meets their needs, you will win at the end. I bet nobody hates being loved and no matter how long, they will eventually respond to our love and love us back in equal measure.

Oh yes! I would propose to my wife over again! I would chose her again above all else! She’s an angel, just not an all-white one; she has her many dark spots. But I’m not looking for perfection…just someone who loves me in equal measure or even more; just someone who means well. And I know she means well…and that’s enough!

Happy Valentine Folks! Keep loving!

#LoveWins.

Mark Gadogbe (McApple)

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Happy Marriages

“There are no measuring scales in happy marriages. These couples want the best for each other and realize that keeping score or trying to have a 50/50 marriage is no way to live if you want to be happy. And as the professionals say, 50/50 doesn’t work in relationships because we’re not fractions. We are whole people”.
~~Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott

#GiveYourAll

 

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