Virgin or not? 

​”…so, are you a virgin?”

Few years ago, I think that question used to be the one boys and girls feared most? And it keeps coming up many times in conversations. 

I bet many lied back in the days because the eyes that will be staring at you when that question drops will scare the hell out of you. It appears it was safe (especially for ladies) to say you are than to say you are not…to avoid being judged or being perceived wrongly. 

I doubt if same question carries that much weight today. The times in which we now are, I bet your friends won’t even ask you because majority already suspect someway somehow that you’re not. I bet such topics are not even broached. And I bet people will wish to sue you for demanding to know whether they are or not…if they have the liberty to. Lol. 

But whatever the case may be, I guess the subject of virginity will always remain a very sensitive one huh? 

To be or not be? Well, In some people’s world, it’s a matter of choice than morality. In other people’s dictionary (especially the non-religious carefree ones), “virginity does not necessarily make one holy”. But whatever you are, don’t worry…you can just begin to think like Ann Rinaldi: 

At least that gives us all a common denominator. 

Raise your hand if life has never ever screwed you!

(Haha, Happy Friday! Just some funny thought that crept into my head and I wanted to write it down 😂)

©Mark Gadogbe (McApple), 2017

Don’t burn your bridges

I was your bridge when you needed one

Your life saving help

To cross that mighty ocean

That threatened to swallow you alive

No matter how small my bridge

It helped you cross over

I bet the feeling was great

Like that of being alive

A new year to behold

Like I was to you, many have been to me

Life does get so hard sometimes

That every once in a while

We all need bridges to ride over our fears

It’s human to require another’s help in times of need

But if the bridges we burn after crossing

If our promises we fail to honour

If our part of the bargain we fail to uphold

We demonstrate a limited insight into life’s uncertainties

But life has a way of bringing us back

To the same bridges we travelled in times past

For good or for bad, our fate then we will learn.

 

© Mark Gadogbe (McApple), 2017

Marriage & Personal Development Author

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The soul mate race…

No matter how many times you fail in life or in a competition the rules will never change for you…it remains the same. Same applies to relationships and the race to winning a soul mate and life companion. It wouldn’t matter how many heartbreaks or disappointments you experienced in your search, the rules and people will not change for you…you still got to try over and over again. The work lies with you, not with them. You can sit and lament all you want, blame a million people if you like…but that will not change your status. If you still want it, then you got to go for it again and again…the Philippians 3:13 style (forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead).

 

©Mark Gadogbe (McApple), 2017

Marriage & Personal Development Author

 

Distance marriage fears

One night I had an attack; one I cannot expand on. It amplified one of the greatest fears I have with distance relationship/marriage…the fear of something terrible happening in the loneliness of the night and there’s no one to cry out to for help. Those midnight emergency situations where your health or strength fails and someone close by like your spouse is your only guarantee of life saving help.

In distance marriages, one of a couple’s greatest prayers is centered on asking for doses of God’s protection and being kept entirely in good health so no emergency situations materialize. Such emergency situations that will require you being there asap but geographical distance won’t allow it are very dreadful and praying against them tops a long distance couple’s prayer list.

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What if something happens to your partner out there and you are needed immediately but can never show up in time (actually days) because you now have to be at the mercy of some embassy visa processes since you don’t have a diplomatic passport to just get up and go? Not forgetting that “flight tickets cost an arm and a leg” anyways. All those situations that a call or text is not enough to offer comfort are very dreadful.

…And far from the fears, need I say a lot of funny jealousies build up sometimes too? Lol

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Well…God is good all the time and He keeps having our backs! Forever our refuge in times of trouble, right?

 

© Mark Gadogbe (McApple)

Marriage & Personal Development Author

Divorce

FACT: Years of research has shown majority of divorces are initiated by women.

REASON: Because women are just never satisfied in marriage because of their many unrealistic unmet expectations…or men are just unrepentant heart breakers??

Well, I don’t know…maybe you do?

 

Control and manipulation…

There are no lessons to be learned when a husband dominates his wife. There are no inspiring examples to emulate when a wife manipulates a husband. Marriage shows us that we are not all there is; it calls us to give way to another, but also to find joy, happiness, and even ecstasy in another.
~~Gary Thomas