A letter to my wife…

Dearest Juliana, 

Your birthday is here again today! Not only that, but it’s also our traditional marriage anniversary. Tomorrow will be our wedding anniversary. You know all this, and you might have heard it before, but it’s still important that you hear it again…that, 

you’re the best of life’s blessings to me and I am eternally grateful 

I have been grateful every single day since we set out on this journey less traveled by many for fear of many unknowns and heartbreaks. I don’t have to say it every single day for you to know I am, right? I know you’ll agree because even though I know your ears are so sweet and always wanting to hear something (news, gossips, sweet nothings), hearing the same thing everyday will bore you to death. See? I know you too well 😜.

Typical of me, I always lose some sleep on occasions like this watching you sleep soundly and also lost in thought over how far we’ve come and how grateful we should be for God’s divine providence that has kept us. I usually sing in my head a few lines from that our favorite song that goes like… 

“Your Grace and Mercy brought us through.

We living this moment because of You. 

We want to thank You and praise You too. 

For Your Grace and Mercy brought us through”

Sometimes I shed a few emotional tears that you never see, for a man must never be seen crying, even if they are tears of joy or gratitude for divine providence, right? 😂🙈


We were younger than most folks when we started out and still younger when we got married. I know how we always laugh when we remember how that “our very young members are getting married” announcement was made in Church and I know how that makes you feel 😜. I think laughing is one of our good perks because we always someway somehow find something to laugh about. I love that a lot…please don’t ever stop laughing with me? Aww! 😂

It feels like a lot of years have passed and we are still young and still stuck in our lovely twenties (we just can’t wait to get out of it huh? 😂). But the good thing about us being young is that we had a tremendous amount of zeal, faith and belief in what we had as true undying love that’s willing to go the extra mile. And surely the extra mile we went. I still see that zeal, faith and belief in you and it’s simply beautiful to behold, you never know…I see a lot of things. If you like call me “the seer” like we used to secretly call someone back in our school days. 😂🙈

Truth is we know our own love story and life story…nobody can tell it better than us. At best, they can only misrepresent it, even they that have been the closest to us. We know better all the things we have been through…the good, bad and ugly. I know you will laugh here because you know a lot of our folks think we’ve never seen ugly days 😂.

But all in all, the best part about you and I on this beautiful adventure has been God…how He keeps orchestrating things in our favour. 

With Him, our relationship has been one heaven of an adventure; one I wouldn’t trade for anything. It’s all been worth it…all the love, all the sacrifices. May we never take God for granted. 

Two years of distance marriage gave us academic laurels plus some beautiful life lessons and adorable memories of living apart. That was amazing, let’s try it again 😜.

One year living together has given us it’s own share of amazing memories topped with a beautiful bundle of joy that only you gets the privilege of naming “Sweet Face“. Such an adorable product of our secret antics in the night must surely have a sweet face 😂. I know you wished she came in your birth month December so you can boss over me but sorry she couldn’t wait to see me 😜.

Three years of marriage and we can finally say “me + you = three“. Trinity is good. 

Now we can go back to achieving some more academic laurels, or better still stay put and make more cuties and sweet faces? 😜

Truly, on this occasion of your birthday, I’m just thankful for how God has made it all work out so well for you and I’m proud to have you in my life. 

Now let the celebrations begin! Happy Birthday Dear! Savour every moment!

Yours truly,

©Mark Gadogbe (McApple), 2017

Love alone will not build marriage

Not everyone you love is who you will eventually marry.

Should a bird and a fish fall head over heels in love, where are they going to build their home?

One of the most important determinants is whether or not you two can build a successful marriage/home together. And to do that will take more than love, don’t you think? Enough due diligence will be required; love alone will not be enough. Right?

WILL YOU PROPOSE AGAIN? WILL YOU ACCEPT AGAIN?

Happy Valentine!

It’s the season of love!

Love is a good thing. Celebrate it!

But, just a quick thought…

If you are given the opportunity to propose love/marriage to the person you are with now, will you choose the same person? Or you would rather love/marry another? If he should propose again, will you accept again?

Well, the decision is yours and it will obviously be based on the satisfaction you feel in your present relationship. It’s just two things; either you are in a happy marriage/relationship or you are in an unhappy one.

Happy marriages and relationships are possible! It’s all in our hands…it’s all in the effort we put into it. You can’t get happiness in marriage unless you put in happiness. You can’t reap love in marriage unless you pour in love. Marriage is empty from start…what you get from it at the end of the day is what you invest in it.

You can sit all day and grumble all you want about not having a happy marriage/relationship…it won’t change anything until you start putting in the hard work. I know it’s a two-way street; it takes two to create a happy marriage/relationship. What if the other person is not playing their part? Well, that just makes your hard work harder. But if you would just sit down, study your partner, re-strategize and keep pouring in love, affection and respect in an all new way that meets their needs, you will win at the end. I bet nobody hates being loved and no matter how long, they will eventually respond to our love and love us back in equal measure.

Oh yes! I would propose to my wife over again! I would chose her again above all else! She’s an angel, just not an all-white one; she has her many dark spots. But I’m not looking for perfection…just someone who loves me in equal measure or even more; just someone who means well. And I know she means well…and that’s enough!

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Happy Valentine Folks! Keep loving!

#LoveWins.

Mark Gadogbe (McApple)

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