Addictions

Everybody is addicted to something, said a wise man.

If you don’t know your addiction or haven’t yet discovered it, you might think you’re the best of human beings, perhaps a super being, and just go about castigating everybody else.

Look deep within, you will find your addiction, no matter how subtle. You will find that which you can’t do without. You will find that which has a constant pull on you. You will find that one thing you like so much although it does affect you negatively too. You will find that one thing you are struggling to do away with. 😊

Perhaps you are addicted to being perfect? 🤪

On a more serious note, bad addictions need to be worked on, especially when you acknowledge it puts your life in danger. Take the needed baby steps and before long, you will be walking, trotting and running your way out of that bad addiction.

I don’t know what your addiction is, but I bet you have one. 😊

Happy New Year! Be the best version of yourself this new year!

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©Mark Gadogbe, 2022

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The Sex Wavelength

Naturally, men want sex, lots of it. Women do too, loads of it.

That’s sometimes just in principle, or theoretically speaking. Reality however is that, your want of sex and actually getting to have it as much as you want in life (and in marriage obviously), is not even totally dependent on you. It takes two to tango, and even things as simple as sex are sometimes complicated within the bounds of holy matrimony.

To put it simply, consider yourselves blessed if you and your partner have the same understanding of your sexual needs and are often on the same sexual wavelength. Often, you will discover in many relationships/marriages that one partner wants sex more, while the other wants it less. Reaching a middle ground is also sometimes a very slippery road. Don’t be surprised when you discover that, in many marriages, there are more “fights” or disagreements over sex than anything else. It’s a major make or break point in many marriages.

Many have conquered the battle or won the “war over sex”, many others too have sadly lost. There are winners and losers in the game of sex, and you might not know what you’ll get until you’re served.

I guess we can just leave it at that and wish everybody well in their sexual endeavors. It’s our prayer though, that every marriage comes out “sexually successful”. 🙏🏾😊😎

©Mark Gadogbe, 2021

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A gender-balanced post?

So, here I am thinking about the best form of asking a question without offending anyone. 😂🙈

Back in the days, one could easily get away with the question “Why get pregnant for a man you wouldn’t want to marry?

But lately, a question like that could land one into trouble, irrespective of whether you wanted to direct the question to a particular gender, that is the female gender.

Most feminists would prefer or insist on the question rather asked as: “Why impregnate a woman who wouldn’t want to marry you or you wouldn’t want to marry?

It’s probably the same question, or the import of the message might be same, but depending on the particular gender the message is directed to, it admittedly creates a totally different feel.

Sometimes our writer’s block does not stem from not having an idea or issue to write about. Sometimes it’s just the growing struggle to put on a gender-balanced lens so no gender gets pissed just because you said or wrote something directed at only one gender. Reality is that, many times, a topic or issue so simple to communicate becomes more difficult to put out just because of the need to use he/she or him/her. 😄🙈

©Mark Gadogbe, 2021

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A Eulogy for Breasts on ‘No Bra Day’

The breast in it’s full, firm and unclad glory holds a powerful attraction for men. Babies and grown men alike derive pleasure from those beautiful twin towers that adorn the chest of a woman.

A captivating seductive tool they truly are…how many mighty men have fallen at the sight or allure of breasts! Such beautiful divine work of art. Many a penis would admit ever rising or ‘beaming with life’ at a showy sight of a beautiful breast. Perhaps, it is partly that innate weakness in man that has driven the push for women to be well clad as part of the decency agenda. 😊

Breasts are undoubtedly a powerful addition to a woman’s self-confidence, beauty and feminine sexiness. Many women who feel inadequate and for many other reasons have gone great lengths to enhance their breasts through implants to keep them in the shape, form, size, looks and firmness they desire or feel will give them added self-worth.

As men, we appreciate breasts in all its glory and varieties and will always be sad that our go to source of happiness and pleasure, and that which has given life to many would also be sucking the life out of many life givers. Yes, women are life givers and we surely should sympathize with all women battling various degrees of breast cancer. No man will wish a woman go through that fight.

So, for all women out there fighting breast cancer, we pray for God’s divine healing and intervention for you. For all others, we urge you to take great care of your breasts and regularly undergo breast examination as it helps with early detection and prevention of breast cancer.

On a lighter note, any man would jump at the opportunity to examine his woman’s breasts – do let us. Anything to do with breasts, you can bet men will always be available and ready to roll. It is a divine call and not for nothing that the Bible even recommends in Isaiah 66:11 – “That you may nurse and be satisfied with her comforting breasts; That you may suck and be delighted with her bountiful bosom.” 😊

Don’t worry, we only advocate all that scriptural ‘nursing’ and ‘sucking’ within the bounds of marriage. 🙈

Surely, the Bible’s descriptions of breasts alone should tell you their worth to man. We can’t deny loving breasts any less than women themselves love their godly asset.

#Pinkoctober #BreastCancerAwareness #SaveTheBreast

©Mark Gadogbe, 2021

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Why are men so attracted to or desirous of beautiful women?

Men understand fully that women are very beautiful works of art…very well crafted with everything in the right place. It’s like God did a rushed work with men but took His time to mold the women.

Now, which man, dead or alive, will hate staring at and soaking in a beautiful masterpiece of art? Show me who?

The beauty, sexuality and sensuality of the female is simply a powerful attraction to a man. That is how God made it; I do not think it is Satan who has placed that thing in man that attracts him to beautiful, gorgeous women.

That is not to say it is totally justified to go beyond admiring to lusting…though there’s always that thin line in between. It’s not an easy battle though, all men can admit that – we’re not saints. Hello? 😃🙈

One man puts his battle with strong likeness for or attraction to women this way: “It is simply punishment that God Himself will place us in the midst of all these beautiful women tempting our eyes constantly with all manner of “admirable assets” and say we should not look or desire them. He should have just made us blind and then there will be no problem with lust“. 😂

One would wonder if women lust after or are desirous of men too, or it’s just a man’s battle? Perhaps women don’t openly admit stuff like that?

©Mark Gadogbe, 2021

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Life: It’s okay to feel lost sometimes

Ever been at that point in life when you feel you’re just existing and nothing is really happening for you? Yeah, life does come in phases, and some phases will surely suck.

The journey life takes us on can sometimes be strange, and other times fascinating. Can’t imagine how many times we feel lost and disappointed life doesn’t take us on the exact journey we carefully planned for ourselves and worked hard for.

But somehow it eventually ends well, we hope. Maybe the harvest is nigh and we need not give up!

“It’s okay if you’re lost, we’re all a little lost and it’s alright” ~Nightbirde

©Mark Gadogbe, 2021

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Stand Up! Stand Tall!

Perhaps, we should not live life expecting people will always stand up for us or stand with us…because most often they won’t and we would be left disappointed. People these days don’t put their neck on the line for others. Rarely will you find people standing with you in your problems; many will only do from a comfortable distance but will not go through the thick and thin with you all the way.

We must perhaps accept the fact that life is, and gets lonely, and therefore learn to stand up for ourselves every time and when we fail trying to, just accept our fate and move on.

In the face of life’s trials, we hope to get the courage to stand strong and tall, even if we must alone. It does get so hard fighting life alone, but the reality is that sometimes life offers no other options, except being your own life support, backbone and motivator. You can’t force people to always be there for you, and even if they promise to, chances are that they will fail you; so we maybe just have to be mentally prepared to face life alone and on our own terms. The decisions or mental preparations we make today may sometimes be the difference between whether we can weather tomorrow’s storms or not when they do come.

Like a child learning to walk, we can always learn to get up when we’re down at our lowest and alone in life’s battles, with nobody standing for or with us. Our mental preparation and baby steps back up will eventually lead to giant leaps to the top. The struggle is real but to give up we must not.

Stand up, stand tall, through it all!

©Mark Gadogbe, 2021

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Unfuck Yourself 😊

What matters right this minute is that we’re still alive, irrespective of our present circumstances. Because once we have life, we have hope that we will still achieve our dreams no matter how slow it takes. All that we’ve lost that had “dimmed” our shine, we surely will get back, through legitimate means. Yes, no matter the odds, we will not give ourselves to illegitimate dealings.

We will continue to give ourselves to study, working hard with integrity and dreaming our big dreams. The progress may seem really slow but it’s better than being dead, obviously.

Hopefully, life will afford us the chance to “unfuck” ourselves and get back on track…then just maybe, we will earn some respect from those who look down on our today, just because we seem to have lost our shine. 😊

©Mark Gadogbe, 2021

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Death Note

You see, people die everyday, and people will always die as long as the earth exists.

I don’t care who we choose to blame when someone dies – some blame God and give up on Him. They are of the strong opinion that, He being a good God means He shouldn’t allow people to die. Perhaps, that’s a very limited way of thinking about it.

You see, when God took away the most important person in my life, He didn’t forget to leave me the most important lesson about life and death. That lesson for me is that when He (God) takes away a loved one from us, He makes sure He leaves what’s most important about the person with us – right here in our hearts. And that’s not for us to be bitter and hateful of Him (well, He still gives us the choice to), but to still know He cares enough to give us such a heart and fond memories of them.

Perhaps, a deep mind and strong grounding in Christ is required to fully comprehend God’s ways.

So here’s catch, when I die… hahaha, don’t worry, I will definitely die one day, for it’s only a fool who thinks he will never die; I only ask of you one thing: that you should not be bitter with my God, my maker. Can u do that?
I hope and I pray thee!! 😊

©Mark Gadogbe, 2021

Bittersweet life…

At the most fundamental level, life is simple and basically made up of both good and bad (evil). The fact remains that everything you’re looking for in life, you’ll find both good and bad. Good and bad kind of coexist in this life and it is simply our job to find a balance. There are good people; there are bad people…and we’ll experience them all, whether we like it or not.

Similarly, there are good investments and there are bad investments. There are good Christians / Christian leaders and there are bad ones too. There are good jobs and there are bad jobs. There are good parents and there are bad parents. There are very great relationships and marriages; and there are equally very bad or toxic ones. Also, and quite importantly, there is good sex and there is bad sex. 😊

Life is superficially simple but most times gets complicated, quite frankly, because of the juggling of all these many good and bad experiences. And the more we grow and experience life in much more details, the more complicated things get. The only sure way to avoid a complicated life is to remain babies. But, grow we must!

Quite frankly, we can’t live life just wishing the bad away; at some point, we will experience bad people, bad situations and stuff that will basically try to suck the very life out of us. Whilst that is actually normal in principle, it is also a make or break situation in reality.

Perhaps, it is only when life has got you into a state of hopelessness, chronic depression, giving in to suicidal thoughts, suffering protracted health conditions or terminal illness, experiencing extreme hardship, or having to deal with loved ones in such state, etc., that you will understand the stark reality of the breaking point situation.

Our outlook on life will be largely influenced by which of the two worlds (good or bad) we mostly come into contact with. Should you find anybody with a bad outlook on life and so lost on hope, check their history of life experiences. And if you are privileged to have experienced a lot of the goodies of life, don’t be too quick to judge or write others off.

©Mark Gadogbe, 2021

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