While we live…

Many die before they are appreciated.

Sadly so, will be the story of many still living. One day, when our life’s work here is ended, our place and value in the lives of many will be realized. A void will surely be left as we become nothing, but a fond memory.

Surely, a lot of good will be said also in our tribute, but they will all be words of comfort and appreciation we would have loved to hear while we lived.

©Mark Gadogbe, 2021

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Know your worth?

I met a sales guy the other day. He was coming from behind me and called out to me. When he got closer he said “Boss, I saw in a revelation that your girl was going to leave you for somebody else, probably me”. Apparently that was his way of striking a conversation. Wierd, right? Lol.

But I think my response struck him when I said “Wow, that’s cool bro. No problem at all”.
He was like “I thought you would have a problem with that and will you just let her go easy like that? Won’t you fight for her to prove you love her?”

I laughed and told him to forget that Hollywood stuff and that she can go all the way to Hell if she wants to.

He asked why and I said to him “Whoever does not value you enough to leave your life for another, you must let go and close the door. Life is simple and you will always find better”.

He nodded in agreement with a broad smile on his face and we got into other important sales matters.

(But why I’m I sharing this? Lol)

Let’s just say, it’s a fun post to usher in yet another new month of being alive…amidst all the COVID-19 ‘tribulations’. Dear July, be good to us and keep us safe! 🙏🏾

Every woman… 

Every woman has a longing. 

An innate desire of usefulness to a man because from man she came

But whether her value will go beyond the bedroom 

Beyond just being a man’s object of sexual gratification 

All depends on how she sees and carries herself 

The value she places on herself and sells out to the man she’s with

Will ultimately decide how her man will see her

Men always know the difference 

They know who makes it only to the bedroom as a “sin partner”

And who makes it to being a wife and a destiny partner

When all you bring to the table is your body and chopping of a man’s money

You’ve already decided where you will end

You hold the power to determine your usefulness.
©Mark Gadogbe (McApple), 2017

Marriage & Personal Development Author 

Appreciate! …And do it verbally!

Some people are not very forthcoming with words…but you can’t build a strong healthy relationship without communicating appreciation verbally. They prefer to hide behind actions to communicate what and how they feel, after all, doesn’t “actions speak louder than words”? Yeah, they do most often…but they also sometimes hide the exact feelings we wish to express or just may not carry as much weight as words.

Sometimes, gratitude that is not expressed by words is just nonexistent. The more you fail to communicate your appreciation verbally the more likely your significant other may feel taken for granted, especially when s/he is not good at reading through your actions. Sometimes it may just be as frustrating as trying to read a person’s mind…so be verbally expressive with your feelings of appreciation. Remember “what’s taken for granted will eventually be taken away; then you end up missing most what you least appreciated”.

Appreciation is a great thing in relationships and must be done very often…even in honour of the little supposedly “insignificant” things. It’s as simple as “when you value someone, you appreciate them”.

When you appreciate your man, he surely will appreciate you in return…it’s like action and reaction, cause and effect. So always find the words to tell him he is a good and hardworking man who tries his best to provide for you and the family and he will surely also not focus on your “irrelevant” flaws. Every man wants an appreciative woman who sees and acknowledges how hard he tries!

Similarly, keep telling her she is the best woman, wife, mother and homemaker and she surely will not also call you unhealthy names that ends up doing so much damage to your ego.

The secret? “A person who feels appreciated will always do more than what is expected”. Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary.

You can’t demand or command appreciation in a relationship/marriage when you do not give it yourself.

Learn it and earn it!

But hey, let not thy appreciation be false.

Cheers!

Mark Gadogbe (McApple)